<h1><img class="wp-image-127603 aligncenter" src="https://sleepopolis.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/SO-women-so-sleep-deprived-compared-to-men-400x258.jpg" alt="woman struggling to sleep illustration " width="834" height="538" /></h1> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Work stressors. Chores. Tomorrow’s to-do list. Childcare. Finances. Worst case scenarios. These are just a few of the thoughts swirling around women’s minds as they lie awake in the middle of the night, desperately needing the rest they can’t get. Sleepopolis surveyed and interviewed multiple women who stated those anxieties, and many others, are some of the unique reasons women might struggle even more than men to get the quality and quantity of sleep to survive and thrive the next day (that might be why 42 percent of the women in our survey reported struggling to fall asleep three or more nights per week).</span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">In this 2024 survey of over 2,000 participants, Sleepopolis also found disparities in men’s and women’s sleep, including the fact that of the people who</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> reported struggling with falling </span><i><span style="font-weight: 400;">and</span></i><span style="font-weight: 400;"> staying asleep, 61 percent were women, compared to 39 percent of men. Lastly, of the respondents who struggle to sleep every single night, 65 percent were women and 35 percent were men. Researchers are working to discover more about the vast differences in sleep issues between men and women.</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> </span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Multiple recent studies, books, and documentaries have called out the “invisible load” of women, especially mothers, when it comes to uneven distribution of physical and mental tasks in the household and beyond. For example, in 2019,</span><a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0003122419859007?journalCode=asra"> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Harvard researchers</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> concluded that cognitive labor is a gendered phenomenon, with women doing more of the anticipation and monitoring within a family, and that gender inequality at the household level needs further analysis.</span><span style="font-weight: 400;"> </span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Recently, Netflix aired the documentary “</span><a href="https://www.fairplaylife.com/documentary"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Fair Play</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">,” based on Eve Rodsky’s book, showing multiple reasons women and mothers might be exhausted as they handle playdates and book fairs, childcare issues and medical appointments. As the conversation about women’s mental load progresses, there’s also more opportunity to discuss a vital part of health and wellness — their sleep, and the barriers impeding it, along with necessary solutions.</span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Only 26 percent of women report their sleep levels as “excellent” or “very good,” though they are more likely than men to say sleep is a high priority, according to the</span><a href="https://www.gallup.com/analytics/390536/sleep-in-america-2022.aspx"> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Casper-Gallup State of Sleep in America Report 2022</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">. Dr. Shelby Harris, Sleepopolis’ director of sleep health, says she certainly sees more women than men having a harder time falling and staying asleep, a widespread issue even inspiring her book, “</span><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Womens-Guide-Overcoming-Insomnia-Medication/dp/0393711617"><span style="font-weight: 400;">The Women’s Guide to Overcoming Insomnia</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">.” Here’s what she, and other experts, recommend for women struggling with sleep.</span> <h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">Blame The Hormones</span></h2> <span style="font-weight: 400;">It’s not all in your head — hormones play a significant role in women’s lives, including having an impact on their sleep quality and quantity. “</span><span style="font-weight: 400;">Hormonal shifts are a major reason for sleep challenges. Some women often have issues with insomnia just before their <a href="https://sleepopolis.com/education/the-ultimate-guide-to-the-menstrual-cycle-and-sleep/">monthly cycle</a>, others struggle during pregnancy and just after the baby arrives, and perimenopause/menopause is a huge factor with hot flashes, night sweats, racing thoughts and major hormonal changes/swings,” Harris says.</span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Julie Neale, 51, a work-from-home mom who runs the podcast</span><a href="https://www.instagram.com/mothersquestpod/"> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Mother’s Quest</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> in the San Francisco Bay area, agrees. For her, menopause was a trying time for sleep, with hot flashes and heading to the bathroom multiple times per night to blame. She has always struggled with getting enough hours of sleep each night, and this only made it worse. “I take some supplements and that’s really helped me with that. And I have an amazing fan on at all times.”</span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">In addition to menopause, other major changes in women’s hormones, from puberty to pregnancy and beyond, can alter sleep.</span><a href="https://www.drkristencasey.com/about-dr-kristen"><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Dr. Kristen Casey</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">, a clinical psychologist specializing in insomnia, explains that those hot flashes impede on your body’s ability to maintain the necessary body temperature for great sleep. “Hormones can change with medical concerns and medical issues as well. So if [women] are impacted in other ways, such as with thyroid issues, it can impact sleep as well.”</span> <h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">When We Just Can’t Turn Off Our Brains Or Anxiety</span></h2> <span style="font-weight: 400;">One of our survey participants, Megan, a 38-year-old mom of three, explains that she finds herself running through the family’s daily schedule and what she has to do the next day when she’s trying to sleep. Whether it’s typical daily stress, or a mental health condition, stress and anxiety are a major inhibitor for women’s sleep — women are</span><a href="https://adaa.org/find-help-for/women/anxiety"> <span style="font-weight: 400;">twice as likely</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> as men to develop an anxiety disorder in their lifetimes as well.</span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">“When we’re in a heightened arousal state, which means we have a higher propensity to experience anxiety at night, it does inhibit falling asleep, like initiating sleep, and it also inhibits maintaining sleep,” Casey says, adding that people with anxiety might wake up before their alarm, “edged up.”</span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">“People who have that experience are kind of ruminating or thinking, and they can’t fall asleep — it does spill over into the next day or week, or even months. They are like ‘God, I’m just not getting sleep because I just can’t stop thinking.””</span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">In addition, Casey points to other factors raising the risk of insomnia, including being unemployed or divorced, widowed or separated, or having a lower socioeconomic status. “I can only imagine working two jobs and trying to take care of a child. That’s going to impact sleep and anxiety,” she says.</span> <h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">Stealing Back Some Personal Time — Revenge Bedtime Procrastination</span></h2> <span style="font-weight: 400;">When women do get a moment to themselves, especially for moms whose kids have finally fallen asleep after their eighth bedtime story, they can self-sabotage their own bedtime routine through “</span><a href="https://sleepopolis.com/education/revenge-bedtime-procrastination/"><span style="font-weight: 400;">revenge bedtime procrastination</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">.” Neale is an expert at this, finding herself binge-watching episodes of “This is Us” late into the night.</span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">“Sometimes just putting on a show feels like I can finally do something that feels relaxing,” she says. “So when it keeps queuing up the next episode, it’s hard to say no.” But she also is sometimes working on advocacy and support issues for her two children, ages 10 and 18, both neurodivergent, as they navigate the world, a task that often falls into evening hours when she feels more productive and creative.</span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">But, as Neale’s holistic health care professional puts it, missing even a few hours of sleep can harm your health, and getting under five hours of sleep, which Neale sometimes does, can literally shorten your life. This got her attention even in spite of the temptation of relaxing to an addictive show or getting just one more task done.</span> <h2><span style="font-weight: 400;">Seeking Solutions To Sleep Issues</span></h2> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Of the <a href="https://sleepopolis.com/education/insomnia-in-women-causes-symptoms-and-solutions/">women who have sleep challenges</a>, 65 percent have tried to seek help — or help themselves — with methods ranging from meditation,</span><a href="https://sleepopolis.com/sleep-supplements/the-best-natural-sleep-aids/"> <span style="font-weight: 400;">natural sleep aids</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">, medication, counting sheep, and working with a sleep specialist. But plenty of women wait until push comes to shove before they start looking for help.</span> <span style="font-weight: 400;"> </span><span style="font-weight: 400;">The last thing Neale had time for when her husband started noticing her snoring and gasping for breath while sleeping was figuring out whether she had sleep apnea through a sleep study. But she knows getting to the bottom of it is essential to her health and is now pursuing solutions to sleep apnea,</span><a href="https://sleepopolis.com/education/women-and-sleep-apnea/"> <span style="font-weight: 400;">often diagnosed in women around the time of menopause</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">, as it was for her.</span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Neale has tried multiple solutions to improve sleep. She uses a wearable device that collects data on her sleep cycles, called</span><a href="https://ouraring.com/"> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Oura</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">. She has moved her phone to the kitchen to avoid scrolling first thing, opting for a morning wakeup routine instead. She uses a planner to get those spinning thoughts out of her mind to settle into sleep, and works with a holistic doctor as her wellness coach.</span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Casey adds that it can be helpful to work through stressors in your life that are causing anxiety and preventing sleep, with the goal not to eliminate them completely, but to just reduce them enough to get some rest.</span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">“Can I do anything differently? How can I reduce my stress this week, even if it’s 5 percent? What’s out of my control?” Casey says. She also uses scheduled worry time as a tool with clients to help prevent stressors from slipping into bed with them.</span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Harris adds prioritizing a bedtime routine is a must for women. “</span><span style="font-weight: 400;">Don’t force it. If you’re not sleepy, don’t bother going to bed until you are. Make sure to have a solid wind-down routine at least 30 minutes before bed where you don’t use screens. Sleep isn’t an on-off switch, instead work to dim the lights as well as your brain and body. Also, make sure to get up at the same time every single morning.”</span> <span style="font-weight: 400;">Harris recommends starting with some basic</span><a href="https://sleepopolis.com/education/good-sleep-hygiene/"> <span style="font-weight: 400;">sleep hygiene</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;"> rules, such as limiting caffeine eight hours before bed, cutting alcohol and heavy meals within three hours of bed, and not exercising right before bed. If you aren’t improving your sleep in 3-4 weeks, reach out to your health care provider for next steps. There are many evidence-based, effective treatments available for insomnia (including non-medication approaches like Cognitive Behavior Therapy for Insomnia), so don’t suffer in silence. With everything women do, getting enough rest is a must. </span>
